I started on the Vine a year ago because there were a couple topics that were particularly troubling to me, and I just needed to speak my mind on them. Once I entered the forums and realized that the Vine wasn’t like the vast majority of other forums that I’ve been to before, I began to spend more time here and gathered quite a few friends. Before I knew it, I was adopted into a group and it was like moving in with a family. We set up a group, and my time became more about the group than going around from article to article. Sure, I still visited the occasional subject, but I rarely got engrossed as I used to… unless a couple friends were with me to discuss things.
You may be wondering where all this is heading. Well, as of late, I’ve noticed an undercurrent in the Vine. A lot of people don’t like to hear it or acknowledge it, but it is there. I’ve taken a break from the Vine a couple times and come back with fresh eyes and have seen it with a little more clarity than I may have if I would just stay status quo. I like the vast majority of people on the Vine. They are as varied as a bag of Jelly Belly jelly beans and that leads to plenty of opportunities to learn. What I have noticed are the few that scurry behind the scenes… whispering things in people’s ears. They could be the truth but they are more than likely lies… just to further a person’s agenda or ego along. Why would they do this? For the same reason that kids do it in the schoolyard… the need for attention… maybe the craving to be popular. It isn’t something that you would normally expect among adults, but it appears that even the Vine suffers from immature behavior.
I’m sure that we can all point to an episode of someone “pulling a piggy-tail” or spreading false rumors about each of us, but this really isn’t about calling certain people out in a petty type of way. It is simply to mention that something is happening in our backyard, and we all have the conscious choice to listen to that little voice whispering in our ear, or to make up our own minds by simply talking with each other. Personally, I’ve never really liked gossip… it is usually all hearsay in the first place and more likely than not… wrong in one form or another. It is a decision we all make.
I think what we are dealing with, is some people run “group to group”, “person to person”. This is totally about being validated. Is NV about getting smarter, or being validated? At times I question this. It’s a sad day when the vine becomes an extension of validation. There’s something morally wrong at that point. Fishing for attention, should never be a part of what this site states as the reason to be a member. These are some of my concerns, as I seek to grow stronger, smarter. Too often lately, I’m forced to acknowledge that with some, this is nothing more than a clique and actually a “school yard”.